And I quote, "Hi, I'm XXXX , and Im probably not the type of guy you go for but I wanted to take a chance to say how absolutely beautiful I think you are . I'm sure you hear that all day long on here and wether you respond or not just wanted to say thank you for putting a smile in my face with your beauty, I hope your personality is just as amazing ."
Awww, Friend. Cheer up, Buttercup. Let's do a little Cognitive Behavioral Therapy on that statement. What feelings did you have when you had that thought? Where do you think these thoughts are coming from? Isn't it really that deep down you feel like you "aren't good enough" or maybe that in some way you are "unlovable"? Let's try to own our feelings rather than placing them on someone else. How about a little reframe? What if instead we said, "I'm going to message this girl, and she may or may not write me back, but I was still brave enough to put myself out there."? Your homework for this week is to message a girl using a more neutral or positive reframe. See, now isn't that better? And since I'm now officially Dr. Schmerica, that will be $150. You can just forward it to my Paypal.
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